This weekend I visited my cousin and we were doing what most women do when they get together: discuss their problems. Well, shortly into the conversation she turned to me and said she recently had an epiphany. Freeing a torn sheet of scribbled-on paper from her desk, she began to read out loud a short list of questions that once answered, will certainly solve any problem.
These brilliant questions are penetrating and highly intuitive. Giving credit where credit is due, my cousin revealed that this list was a mish-mash of questions previously posed by some of the greatest self-help gurus of our time that were left floating around in her brain.
If you have a problem, cover every angle by answering these 5 questions:
- What’s good about this situation? If you draw a blank here, ask: What could be good about it? By asking this question, you’re getting into a positive mind frame and paying attention to what IS or what could work.
- What in this situation is NOT perfect yet? Identify the circumstantial challenges to the situation. This will allow you to pinpoint the different areas that need attention in order to fix the problem, regardless the level of control you have over them.
- What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it? This question identifies your preferred outcome. It also allows you to note potential actions you will need to perform in order to get your desired results. Start with the mini challenges you noted in the above question but focus only on the things you can change.
- What am I willing to no longer do to make it happen? Weigh the importance of your golden outcome against the costs. The Universe is ruled by equal opposites. The energy you’re using to get what you want here must be redirected from somewhere else. What are you willing to sacrifice in order to get what you want?
- How can I do what’s necessary to get what I want and enjoy the process ? This, in my opinion, is the most significant question. The correct answer will get you the results you want with little fuss and heartache. It reminds me of The Secret to Making Healthy Living Easy as any challenge is difficult until we find a way to make it easy. So what can you do to make what you have to do, enjoyable? Where there’s a will, there’s a way. You just have to find it!
Answer these 5 questions and you’re sure to find the solution to any difficulty. I haven’t had a chance to try it out myself yet, so let me know if it works and I’ll do the same for you.
Can you think of any questions we could add here?