Wow, Ricki, what a comment, thank you. It’s actually very timely as I’ve found myself in the Valley of Indecision once again. (So know that you’re not alone!) Your comment gave me time for some reflection and I’d be happy to share some more insights I’ve gleaned that are working for me right now.

1) It’s good to live in the moment. Goals are great to have but they are not the be all and end all. They are meant to create motivation but if they’re sucking the enjoyment out of life – then what’s the point? It sounds like you have a huge number of interests and you follow them when it strikes your fancy. I think that’s great – you’re being true to yourself! As long as you’re enjoying your time, well, some people say the point of it all is the journey, not the destination.

2) A lack of passion, motivation and concentration can be attributed to a health issue. For instance, low testosterone levels. I followed The Hormone Diet 10 week program awhile ago and it worked like a charm. (http://livelighter.org/the-hormone-diet-review/) I’m going to do it again!

3) Something I’ve been trying to work into my schedule again is time for just being quiet or alone with me, myself and I. I do things like walk, journal and meditate – all in order to get to know myself better. We all know what we want in life, we just get confused with what society, authority figures, friends, family, etc. think we want or should want out of life.

4) My friend, Motivatorman, blogs about movies that motivate and recommends the movie Peaceful Warrior. I’m drawn to see this movie again and would like to prescribe it for you, too. Here’s one of Motivatorman’s blog posts on Peaceful Warrior: http://motivatorman.blogspot.com/2007/07/tip69-be-in-moment.html

5) To address your last thought – you are a wonderful human being just like the rest of us. Everyone of us deserves to be happy and as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else, then we should be doing whatever we love at the time, as much as we can. Does it matter if we’re any good at it? If I love to sing but can’t carry a tune, I’d sing every chance I got for the pure joy of it. Of course I wouldn’t try to make a living out of it but I’d still honour myself by doing what I love.

Thank you again Ricki for posting this comment and being so honest and sincere. Although I’ve been enjoying the moment for awhile now, it’s time to get decisive again. I hope this response helps just as much as your comment helped me!

Its over two years now that you have posted this. I find everything that you said completely true but as another case scenario I do find myself not even being able to decide on what my visions are. Not being able to stick to them. I feel I get excited for a few minutes or two days at most what I want to achieve in life but then I lose interest, I get bored and move to the next thing (only to find myself back in wanting the same things i wanted a year prior). I want to achieve so many things, I want to do so many things, experience so many things but in saying that I find myself doing nothing about it because I know that I cannot achieve all of it in my life time. Even though I have a degree I am no longe rhapy with it and have not kept a job for over 1.5 years.
I do agree I can just take one matter at a time and get things done one at a time but then i worry that I want to start another thing or I’m missing on doing something better. (Again going back to then missing out on everything.) For example: I want to learn everything there is about so many sports, be a pro at every sport but then I just lose concentration and hop onto something else. I have no passions for things. I have no drive. No commitment to anything in life… For example I have a goal to learn at least one musical instrument, learn at least 4 languages in my lifetime (I know 2 and a bit from a third already through family) but then I get reading on things for a day and then I don’t force myself to learn more the next. I feel if I do have something that I’m interested in I immediately lose interest because who am i to think I am any good at it. Who am I? Do you understand what I am getting at? I hope maybe you can give me a little advice through your life understandings.

In my personal experience the only way to transcend a bad habit is to associating immediate pain to the destructive behavior.

For example the idea of smoking must create a sense of immediate, unbearable and massive pain.

emphasis on “immediate”.

For me I imagine every puff allowing cancer cells to enter and grow on to my lungs and throughout my body.

I immediately connect smoking with being over weight and not being able to achieve any of my life goals.

Are all these associations facts? Not for everyone but for me my mind makes them just as real as any scientific experiment could.

Again the key is the association must be immediate, unbearable and massive pain.

Great post Steph! Your honest commentary during your struggle is very common experience which I feel all your readers will in some way connect with.

I really appreciate the support, Emmanuel! Thank you.