“Laws of Love?” you may exclaim. “Love knows no bounds!” Ah, but according to Chris Prentiss (and my experience says he’s right), just as there’s a law of gravity, there ARE Laws of Love. If you want to create the relationship of your dreams, this might be the book to help you do it!
Unconditional love. All of us want it, some of us get it (at least from our pets), but very few of us know how to give it. It’s a love so pure that no matter what you do, you’ll be loved and accepted simply for being you. Loved for all your darkness (a.k.a. shadow self), as much as the parts of you that make it easy for others to adore you.
About the Book
How do you create the relationship of your dreams? This is what Chris Prentiss promises to reveal in his latest book, “Laws of Love.” In my opinion, he successfully delivers in this easy-to-read guidebook for creating a healthy, lasting relationship. He shows us what it looks like to love unconditionally!
Actually, I read “Laws of Love” twice through before sitting down to write this review. Between the ancient Chinese wisdom (which obviously makes life more enjoyable overall!) and the stories Prentiss uses to illustrate them through the 14 Laws of Love, even reading a few pages has the power to lift my spirits!
Here’s Power Publishing Press describing a bit about the book:
“Prentiss believes that having the relationship you desire does not depend on luck. It’s a result of knowing the right steps to take to create a fulfilling friendship with your partner. Making relationships a priority is not easy and requires commitment, which is why so many partnerships fail to take root or to survive. In “Laws of Love,” Chris explains what “Safe Space” is and how to provide it, who is attracted to you and why, and how to heal unhealthy patterns from the past that affect you and your partner today.”
Practical exercises for each Law helps you examine how you got to be the person you think you are, how to change, and how to relate to your partner in ways that lead to healthy, enduring romance.
Chris Prentiss didn’t always know how to live a fulfilling life full of love. He was taught to lie, cheat, steal and connive his way to survive. He shares with us his defining moment in “Laws of Love” where he realizes he’s heading toward a disastrous end if he continues his successful and fun, yet hollow, ways of being.
Eventually he finds his “how to” book on becoming a more enlightened human being in the ancient Chinese book, I Ching and has been studying Chinese philosophical writings for more than 40 years.
Chris Prentiss is the author of several popular works on personal growth, including Zen and the Art of Happiness; The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure; Be Who You Want, Have What You Want; The Little Book of Secrets; and The I Ching: The Book of Answers. He is the cofounder with his son, Pax, of the world-renowned Passages Addiction Cure Centers. He has also written, produced, and directed a feature film. He lives with his wife in Kauai, Hawaii.
As you can probably tell, I’m a big fan of Chris Prentiss’ book on the “Laws of Love.” Yes, it`s another relationship book, and it has much in common with the one I loved and reviewed last year, “The Art of Flourishing.” Yet “Laws of Love,” is different.
It’s has a heavier spiritual element to it, which lends it a less clinical feeling; and it’s shorter with a very simple yet profound message.
“The Art of Flourishing” provided me many insights into a healthy love relationship, but I had many questions by the end of it. Actually, shortly after finishing that book, I interviewed the author, Dr. Rubin, to gather more insight, which helped tremendously!
In “Laws of Love,” however, I had no questions. He shows us exactly what it looks and feels like to love unconditionally, and to form a strong, lasting bond through friendship with our partner.
What Prentiss does leave us with is work! Ha ha. Yes, Dr. Rubin leaves us work to do in his relationship book, too, and this is simple testimony that lasting relationships take work – and NOT on our partner but on ourselves. Actually, Prentiss’ wife, a doctor of Traditional Chinese medicine, says,
“Taking care of your physical, mental, and emotional well-being is the same as taking care of your partner. It is the seed of the ability to share happiness. Working on yourself everyday to bring out the best in yourself is the same as working on the partnership. It represents the building blocks of your partnership – your future.”
There are several reasons why I’m really jiving with Prentiss’ work. Most of us will relate to the subject matter because we’ve all had relationship questions, disturbances and issues that left us baffled. Prentiss suggests a philosophy that eases our worries and gives us a game plan to work on ourselves and create an extraordinary relationship in the process.
How “Laws of Love” Changed My Mind
One of the best indicators of a really good book is that it gets you thinking, questions your beliefs and can even change your mind. Chris Prentiss did this for me with at least two big ideas. Once in the Law of Relationships Only Thrive in Safe Space and again in the Law of Your Relationship Will Endure When You Make It Your Primary Priority.
Without revealing too much and sharing ideas out-of-context in case you misunderstand, I will give you a little glimpse into my enlightenment:
The first has to do with knowing what unconditional love really looks and feels like, something I was obviously confused about because what he suggests I immediately got my tail feathers ruffled and said to myself, “but I’d be letting them off the hook!” Well, he explains further and now I understand the differences between unconditional and selfish love. Actually, Chris goes so far as to suggest that unconditional love IS selfish – and again, I’ll let you read the book for what he means by that statement.
The other idea Prentiss explains that had my head spinning has to do with a law that in effect helped clarify for me the difference between making your relationship a priority and losing yourself in the relationship. From my experience, both men and women have a hard time with this one.
Considering all the positives, I highly recommend “Laws of Love: Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams” by Chris Prentiss. I believe you’ll receive the same insights, and possibly more, than I have. I’ve read the book twice, would like to read it again. and look forward to doing the exercises more thoroughly!
You can buy “Laws of Love” at many online retailers:
- At the publishing company, Power Press, for $12.95.
- Amazon.com (kindle): $ 9.86, (paperback) $10.38.
- Barnes and Noble: $.38 or $7.40.
Disclaimer: I RECEIVED A COMPLIMENTARY COPY OF THE Laws of Love IN EXCHANGE FOR AN HONEST REVIEW.