Happy Love Day, Everyone! In celebration of St. Valentine’s Day , I thought we’d tackle the question of, “Is love healthy?”
Intuitively, I know it is. The pure pleasure I get from human contact, the warm feelings I experience from love and the ecstasy from a night of hot romance, all reinforce this belief. But for the logical-minded people in the room, there is a very real biological dance of hormones and neurotransmitters at work here and for all for good, evolutionary reason!
As we discussed earlier in the secret to easy healthy living , pleasure is our body’s way of telling us that whatever we’re doing, it supports life. Boiled down to the bones of the matter:
- the passion of falling in love and the sex act itself is necessary for procreation
- regular sex during a relationship is used for bonding between the couple so they stay together to rear the child (two care-givers = more chances for survival)
- and the `connected’ feeling we get through touch acts as a means for bonding…with the child and our means of social support
The instinct to procreate is very strong but nature is smart and it prioritizes for you. If your immediate survival is threatened, your lovey-dovey feelings flitter away for a bit and your sex-drive plummets.
Emotional withdrawal and loss of sexual appetite are both indicators that something is off balance in your body. On the other hand, when you’re healthy and humming with the vibrancy of life, love and touch feed the cycle and promote your health!
Love touches us on every level of our being. The body sings, our brains fire off those love chemicals, ours minds focus on the moment and `get into it’, our souls activate with love, those exceptionally mind-altering orgasms, in the words of the prolific Trent Renznor, `brings us closer to God’, and our emotional experiences solidify our social connections.
Interestingly, according to a 2004 Time article, “The Power of Love ,” the many expressions of love and sex are creative ways of communicating complex ideas and feelings. And we all know how important it is to our health to express our feelings in positive ways.
So what are you waiting for? Use today as an excuse to start a regular regiment of love. Get your love on and be healthier!